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Is your marriage having problems? No matter how ugly it may be, there’s still time and things you can do to improve your relationship. Here are four simple ways to help you build the best, most loving and satisfying relationship with your wife.

1. Deal with arguments differently

Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but it’s how you deal with them that’s most important. In middle school, I said ‘no’ to drugs. On my wedding day, I said ‘no’ to fighting. Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No” anti-drug campaign was a great success. Children made a verbal pledge and took a mental stand against drugs before they were even old enough to be tempted. By the time they were introduced to drugs, they knew they could “just say no” and not feel alone. Arguing is NOT harmless. It’s habit-forming and, if it persists, is likely to cause damage that can’t be undone. Of course there are times when emotions get heated, and the natural tendency is to become very angry. I sometimes have to stop and think so I don’t say something I would be sorry for later (since when is self-control a bad thing?) Having a naturally calm personality I confess has made it easier for me to think before I speak than it is for some people. But that shouldn’t stop anyone from trying.

2. Turn gossip and negative remarks into esteem and praise

No one’s perfect. When the guys get together and the conversation turns to complaining about “what their wives do,” or wife bashing in general, refuse to join in. It shows that you respect and value your wife. As an alternative, when a “gripe session” gets going, choose to start sharing some of her good qualities. More often than not, this alone will guide the conversation into a positive direction and help your friends to also praise their wives — which in turn helps them to respect and appreciate them more too. Knowing that my wife refuses to put me down in front of friends makes me love and respect her even more.

3. Add variety to your daily life

After a period of time together, most couples get into a comfortable routine where they always do the same things.  Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual routine and same behaviors.  You can rekindle some of that magic and keep your marriage exciting by simply paying attention to these three important areas:

1.  Go on creative dates – agree to go out and do something you’ve never done before once every week, couple weeks, or month.  It doesn’t really matter what you do, but it’s important to make the effort to do this regularly. Want some ideas?  Go to a winery, museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have a picnic in a park.

2.  Spice up your lovemaking – try a new position, technique or location.  Wear some nice lingerie or introduce some new toys into the bedroom.

3.  Show her you think about her – buy her a gift just to say “I love you,”
give her a nice massage, set up a scavenger hunt that shows how much you care about her with a gift at the end.

4. Tackle money issues and debts together

One of the biggest stress-causing problems facing couples today is the huge amount of debt they bring into their marriage. Not only are there more divorces, couples are calling it quits much earlier in their marriage than ever before.  Here are some ideas to get your debt and money issues under control.

1. Sit down and prioritize all aspects of your family budget together.  Only when you analyze your spending habits will you fully realize where you are wasting money.  It’s a great time to talk about your goals and dreams.

2. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.

3. If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a fancier car, ask yourself why.

4. Take a quick inventory of all the items you own but could really live without.  Consider how much you paid for them.  What if you didn’t buy those items and had all that money in savings instead?  Would it make a difference in how you view your job, your family and your future?

5.  Get educated about money.  School doesn’t teach people what it takes to really be financially free.  Read books like Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, Missed Fortune by Douglas Andrew, and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill to help you take a closer look at the debt-filled society we’ve all been conditioned to live in.

So there you have it.  4 ways to turn your marriage down a positive road.  No one said repairing a marriage would be easy.  It takes time, effort and persistence to build a great relationship.

Good luck.

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Michael Webb’s latest book, “Getting Her Back… For Good” provides
you with a solid plan to get your ex-wife back, help heal your marriage and even prevent a divorce. For all the details, visit the How
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Q.  I’ve recently come out of a horrible relationship.  I’m feeling a bit low and wondering if you have any advice?

A.  Ending any relationship, even a bad one, can be hard and takes time.  There are normal stages you will go through…shock, grief, anger, and acceptance.  Many people stay in bad relationships simply because it’s easier than change.  But staying in a bad relationship is not good for anyone involved…you, your ex, children, family or friends.

Start by using this time to find yourself again, do things that make you feel good…find hobbies and activities that you enjoy, especially if it gets you out of the house and helps you meet people with similar interests.

Pamper yourself, make sure you eat healthy, meditate, get enough rest.  Spend time outside, exercise…go for a walk or a hike.  Spend time with people you like, people that can make you laugh.  All these things can help distract you from thinking about the past for a little while, and exercise and meditation produce endorphins and hormones that boost your mood levels.

This would also be a good time to occupy yourself with working on that project you’ve been putting off for a while or volunteer to help someone else…it’s hard to feel bad when you’re accomplishing goals and doing something good.

When you find yourself thinking about something that makes you feel bad, stop…you have the power to choose how you feel.  It isn’t always as easy as it sounds but it gets easier with practice.  When you catch yourself feeling bad observe how you feel (all the physical feelings in your head, your chest, your breathing, etc.), then ask yourself if those thoughts and feelings are serving you in a positive way or a negative way.  Pain comes from fighting against the way things are, when you learn to accept what is you can move on to dealing with the situation constructively…this works for anything in life from little inconveniences to major disasters.

With each relationship you learn more about what you want and what you don’t want in your next relationship.  Take time to make a list of the characteristics you want in your perfect mate, when you know what you want you will find yourself attracting what you are looking for into your life.  It also helps to take some time to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex in order to make a future relationship the best it can be.

And remember, a failed relationship only means that you just haven’t met the right person yet…they’re still out there looking for you, too!

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Many women’s insecurities lead them to believe men have an affair because of the other woman’s looks or because she feels that he no longer finds her attractive because she’s gained weight or gotten older.

However, what men want more than a pretty face or nice body is to be ADMIRED by their partner.

The truth is most men that have affairs are CRAVING admiration.

At home, many men feel nagged and unappreciated.

At the office, they are the ‘hero’.

If a man doesn’t feel admired at home, he becomes easier prey for any woman that makes him feel respected and admired.

Understanding men is a powerful first line of defense in building a solid relationship, you will get what you want when you give them what they need.

When a woman makes her man feel admired she cloaks him in ‘affair-proof’ armor because most men would do anything not to lose her admiration.

This short video has some great tips on how to get your man to treat you right while making him feel like your hero using the Conscious Retraining Method in the Magic of Making Up manual.  No nagging involved… and for you guys reading, this works both ways.

The Magic of Making Up is usually read by people who want to get back together with their ex’s, but as you’ll hear in the video it’s also a great help to improve your relationship and prevent you from breaking up to start with.

Learning the secrets to having great relationships is an important skill you will use for the rest of your life in any relationship you have.  A great relationship brings much happiness, love, and security into your life.  Love is your reward in life.  It is well worth the time and effort to learn the valuable skills involved with romance and relationships.

Stop worrying about your partner having an affair, learn how to prevent it.  If an affair is already threatening your relationship you need to learn how to turn the situation around and repair the relationship before it gets worse…if you want to save your relationship you need a plan.

Go here to review more of the Magic of Making Up.

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Do you want to get him back?  If you had a close, loving relationship with a man who later dumped you, you may want to get back together.  You have a lot of emotional investment in the relationship, and may not want to throw it away without an attempt to reignite the flame. Here’s how to get him back.

First of all, you need to analyze your own feelings.  Do you still care deeply about your ex?  Sometimes a great passion burns into being merely comfortable.  You don’t want to lose your ex because he’s like an old slipper.  But comfort doesn’t make a great relationship.   There has to be a great love.  If you still have passionate feelings for your old boyfriend, you can move onto the next step of how to get him back.

And that next step is examining how he feels about you.  Does he have the same kind of grand love?   If the problems in the relationship were things you can work on – communication, time management, goal awareness – then you can get him back.  But, if the problem was deeper – he was no longer in love with you – you should start to move on now.

When you have determined that this was a grand love, you can start to work on the things that can bring you back together.  For instance, think back to who you were when your boyfriend fell for you.  Perhaps you weighed 10 pounds less, had a more optimistic outlook on life, were close to your girlfriends, or were involved in a variety of activities.

After you spend time with a guy, you begin to change.  You spend less time with girlfriends or on your own activities as he begins to demand more of your presence.  You may have let yourself go because you felt secure in his affection.

If you want to win him back, you need to go back to being the woman he fell in love with.

Another tip on how to win him back is to practice detachment.  Don’t call, text, or stalk him.  You don’t want to appear desperate.  By seeming to accept the situation, you actually become more desirable to him.

In practicing detachment, you also begin to focus on what makes you happy. You get reconnected to friends and family.  You take up hobbies and other things which interest you.  You become a more positive person in general. This all helps in winning him back.

When you do get together with your ex from time to time, use the past to your advantage.  For instance, if there was an outfit he really liked to see you in, wear it.  If you eat at a restaurant where you had a good time with him, mention that you were there again.  Because you have many positive experiences with this guy, you can use your common history to get him back.

From time to time, invite your ex to non-committal type events.  Ask him to join a group of your friends at a bar or invite him to a party.  Let him know he’s free to bring a date.

Finally, if you want to win him back, just be yourself.  Either he’s in love with you or he isn’t. You can’t change who you are to get him back.  You can only be yourself.

Click here for more tips on how to get him back.

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Sometimes moving on (getting over a break up, loss or other major change)  is difficult.  It’s rarely easy unless you’re so glad to get out of a situation that you can’t wait to make changes and move on.  A break up disrupts your whole life.  Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex.  If you had many mutual friends, even going out to keep from feeling lonely or restless can be difficult.

One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you’re ready to move on is your family and friends.  You’re probably going to get tired of answering questions about the situation.  You must explain to them that you’re moving on, the break up is over, and that you don’t want to be constantly reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes dealing with a break up is difficult for family, especially if your ex was popular with your family.  They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you’ll get back together.  You can just say, “Moving on, break up is over, that’s that.”   Eventually they’ll come around because they’re your family and they love you.

It might be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.  If you didn’t have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem.  But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while.  And then there’s the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends.  This doesn’t mean that it’s necessary when you’re moving on to break up with your friends.   It’s just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.

As difficult as it seems, when you say, “Moving on, the break up is history,” you may have to give up some of those friendships.  You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends.  Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you’re closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others.  While this can be painful, it’s probably easiest on everyone because they don’t have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.

Sometimes the “moving on break up” period is just too difficult when you’re surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together.   If you can take some time away once you’ve declared “moving on; break up over” then it can help you a great deal.   If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people.   Take a vacation with a friend who isn’t involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasn’t friends with your ex.  This can help provide a distraction from your current situation and give you a whole new perspective…and who knows who you might meet or where it will lead.

I always like to believe things happen for a reason, and when you look back you can usually see that it’s true, it’s just hard to believe while going through painful situations. Romans 5:3-5 says to rejoice in problems and trials, for it develops endurance, strength of character, and our confident hope…and this hope will not lead to disappointment…for he fills our hearts with his love (through these trials).  Life is a journey, your soulmate is out there, keep looking until you find them.

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