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The REAL Secrets to Sexual Mastery

by Michael Webb, Founder – VirtuosoLover.com

Knowing the moves, without true sexual understanding, is not worth much in the art of making love.  Trust me, if sexual expertise simply requires memorizing a skill without understanding why it works, then I would have simply given you a bunch of cheap tricks to try and left it at that. We would have taken that path and my job would be much easier.

The real secrets of lovemaking are NOT something that has been concealed, covered up, or kept exclusively for the sexual elite.

In fact, the opposite is true, ­ they are sinfully clear to see and deceitfully obvious, that’s why very few men (or women for that matter), see them for what they truly are… MAGIC.

Their simplicity is their curse. These “secrets” are not hidden nor complicated, they’re so
apparent that nobody really takes the time to notice them. They’re easily taken for granted and very few give them a second thought.

The biggest sex secrets are not just about moves, tricks or techniques.  ­ Instead, they are about understanding specific mindsets and beliefs, then finding the right combination between the how and why to truly master the art of lovemaking.

1- Visual VS. Multisensory

Of the 5 senses, for men SIGHT is the one that will immediately spark a fire below. Just seeing a sexy woman can get a man
going… instantly! But what about a woman? How can you make her mind and body think, “Sex…now!”

Well, women are MULTISENSORY.

Through the 5 SENSES, you can work your magic, controlling her mind and body.  By employing smell, taste, touch and sound, you can really arouse her desire. (And that’s certainly good news for less attractive guys.)

Because of this sensitivity to differing channels of sensual stimulation, a woman gets turned-on by a variety of things… things guys would never understand.

We agree that curves are sexy — very visual.  But women consider things like (1) the deep voice of a hunchback poet, (2) the sweet smell of flowers, (3) the rich taste of chocolate, (4) the warm breath on her neck ­ as “SEXY”.

For guys, these are whacked. “What’s with the hunchback and poetry thing?”

Furthermore, men assume that women are highly visual like them, and they believe their looks and external apparel are enough for attracting women. Starting today, when you think AROUSAL, go MULTISENSORY.

2 – ­ Physical vs. Psychological

Every time SEX is on the table, two elements come into focus.  There’s a PHYSICAL and a PSYCHOLOGICAL-EMOTIONAL side.

Physical refers to those luscious lips you long to kiss, that pair of erect nipples on a woman’s breasts and that firm body you long to be on top of.

Psychological-Emotional can encompass many things. Since sex stands on an interactive and symbolic basis, the issues of self-esteem, self-control, self-concept, self-confidence, dominance and sexual hang-ups can all come into play.   Another thing to consider are the feelings for…or lack of… the person you’re with.  It’s your perception of the relationship, is it a one-night stand or a long-term thing?

Men are naturally tuned to the physical side. Huge breasts. Nice butt.  And of course – someone great in bed and willing to fulfill their every desire.  Still, it doesn’t mean the psychological-emotional issues never come in.

Women are more affected by Psychological-Emotional side, and for many, sex presumes an emotional connection. Not necessarily the “I’m so gonna marry this guy” feeling, but at least a feeling of closeness and comfort.

3 – ­ Process VS. Goal

This is the 3rd essential difference between men and women. Women ask, “What’s with men? They want sex so bad, but when you finally give it to them, they rush through it as fast as possible!”

Guys are very goal-oriented. Look at everyday scenes and see how we contrast with women. Take jogging at the park, for example. Watch how men and women go about this ritual and notice their mannerisms.

Can you spot the differences?

Women are able to appreciate the view as they run, taking in the freshness of morning, sparing a moment to enjoy the flowers along the path.  They’re also more likely to smile at other people along the way.

How how did the men do? We were most likely counting laps made, constantly looking over those heart rate gadgets strapped on our wrists. Heck, we would step over the flowers without a second thought just to get from point A to B! Men have a thing for goals. And this inclination evidently gets carried over to the bedroom as demonstrated by an obsessive drive to 3 specific targets:

Goal # 1 = Take her clothes off   Goal # 2 = Slide penis in  Goal # 3 = Cum

But with a woman… it’s not so much the destination; it’s really more about the journey. ­ WOMEN ARE PROCESS CREATURES. For them, sex is a moment by moment experience. (Hint to would-be great lovers)

With HER, she’s thinking, “Ok what’s happening, NOW… what’s he doing down there, NOW… Ohhhh, what he’s doing NOW really feels good.”

Can you sense the important difference? They are on different worlds and different time zones! Women are into process – the Present, ­ men obsess with goals ­- the Future.

So it’s quite difficult for the goal-oriented and process-oriented creatures to be on the same page. Is one more correct than the other? No, but men ought to look into process so they won’t miss the pleasures offered along the way. If all you see is the goal at the end, you will miss the beauty of the journey.

That’s not to say that women don’t care if they cum or not, they just know that orgasms aren’t everything, and their quality depends much more on going through the process. Sextraordinary is found in the PROCESS.

About the author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of “The Virtuoso Lover“, teaching men how to become exceptional lovers. Unfortunately most men have no idea how to make ‘out-of-this-world’ love, which leaves women frustrated and disappointed. Learn to be one of the rare men that can satisfy women both physically and emotionally by visiting: The Virtuoso Lover.