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So, I had a boyfriend for about 3 weeks.  No secret.
Today we had a fight cause I wouldn’t tell him what I was whispering into my friends ear (just a girl friend).

He just gets up and says, “Fine. Don’t tell me,” then walks a few blocks to his house till my friends caught up to him and convinces him to come back.  I was outside just chilling, till I see my 2 best friends talking and laughing with him.  I was mad so I didn’t talk to him at all for hours.  He didn’t say a word to me also.

Now, I don’t know what I should do.  Do I  want to end our relationship before something like this happens again, or talk to him tomorrow when I see him at school and work things out.  I mean, you DO learn from your mistakes.  But he’s just so rude.

Any advice…

Ok, I am dating this wonderful women who I met last year in class. We have been dating for 1 year and 2 months. I found out she likes this other guy? How should I confront her about this? Should I be worried about this? Is this a normal thing? Will this affect our relationship?

Q.  I’ve recently come out of a horrible relationship.  I’m feeling a bit low and wondering if you have any advice?

A.  Ending any relationship, even a bad one, can be hard and takes time.  There are normal stages you will go through…shock, grief, anger, and acceptance.  Many people stay in bad relationships simply because it’s easier than change.  But staying in a bad relationship is not good for anyone involved…you, your ex, children, family or friends.

Start by using this time to find yourself again, do things that make you feel good…find hobbies and activities that you enjoy, especially if it gets you out of the house and helps you meet people with similar interests.

Pamper yourself, make sure you eat healthy, meditate, get enough rest.  Spend time outside, exercise…go for a walk or a hike.  Spend time with people you like, people that can make you laugh.  All these things can help distract you from thinking about the past for a little while, and exercise and meditation produce endorphins and hormones that boost your mood levels.

This would also be a good time to occupy yourself with working on that project you’ve been putting off for a while or volunteer to help someone else…it’s hard to feel bad when you’re accomplishing goals and doing something good.

When you find yourself thinking about something that makes you feel bad, stop…you have the power to choose how you feel.  It isn’t always as easy as it sounds but it gets easier with practice.  When you catch yourself feeling bad observe how you feel (all the physical feelings in your head, your chest, your breathing, etc.), then ask yourself if those thoughts and feelings are serving you in a positive way or a negative way.  Pain comes from fighting against the way things are, when you learn to accept what is you can move on to dealing with the situation constructively…this works for anything in life from little inconveniences to major disasters.

With each relationship you learn more about what you want and what you don’t want in your next relationship.  Take time to make a list of the characteristics you want in your perfect mate, when you know what you want you will find yourself attracting what you are looking for into your life.  It also helps to take some time to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex in order to make a future relationship the best it can be.

And remember, a failed relationship only means that you just haven’t met the right person yet…they’re still out there looking for you, too!

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“Flirting With Men Takes You From Nice to Charming”

Whether you’re single or committed, flirting makes life more fun!  Some will  say people in relationships shouldn’t flirt…I disagree.  There are different kinds of flirting, casual or for romance.  You do have to know where to draw the line.

The art of flirting can take you from nice to charming, when done right.  Charming people are fun to be around, and men especially are drawn to women who smile and laugh.  They find self-confidence attractive, and nothing says that more than a little flirting.

A true flirt uses almost every encounter with a man to make him feel more like a man – making him feel charmed and wanted and special. Men love it when a woman  flirts with them.

Flirting sends a man the kind of message that is vital to his sense of masculinity and his self-esteem. There are so many men who are simply starved for this kind of attention.

When you flirt with a man, you stay in a that man’s mind – sometimes for years!

Anyone can have a conversation – but casual flirting says that you think they’re important, and romantic flirting shows that you really care about him, not just as a person, but as a man!

Flirting with your husband is a wonderful way to make him feel important every day.  And if he’s getting attention from you he’ll be less likely taken in by someone else’s charms.

Why not practice your flirting on the men you consider to be “safe”?

Why not flirt with men a little more today than you did yesterday?

Start with a warm smile for everyone. That’s the first step in practicing flirting. And smiling is not against the law, the last time I checked!

But what if you don’t habitually flash everyone a big smile as you go about your day?

In that case, don’t make sudden radical changes in your behavior. That can cause your friends and co-workers to wonder what’s up with you!

The best way to incorporate a new behavior in your life is in small doses. Otherwise, you may abandon a good effort before you’ve even begun. Whatever you do, keep flirting with men until it becomes as easy as saying hello.

Stay with it. Just flirt a LITTLE more today than you did yesterday. Start with smiling MORE. At everyone!

If you’re married, small changes are a great way to start being more flirtatious with your husband. Start with a longer kiss hello or goodbye. Start showing more happiness with the world and with him.

Little changes go a long way when you increase the amount of flirting in your life.

Flirting says, “I find you attractive – I notice that you are a man – and I am a woman!”

It’s a message that will never, ever go out of style.

Remember to keep your flirt on!  Read more about how to flirt with men at  FlirtWithMen.com.

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Author and Flirting Expert Mimi Tanner reveals the secrets of getting the attention and devotion of your man. Her email column “With Love, Mimi Tanner” is read by thousands of women every day. Visit her website and find out more about How To Flirt With Men.

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Are there ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?…

I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.

So I am going to answer…”How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”

BUT…

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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.

Click here for the Magic of Making Up

If you use this technique alone, without
an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let’s
go over what message almost NEVER
works.

and worse…

Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

“Joe, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”

And the EMERGENCY-

“Sarah, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won’t go on and on…

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are:

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’

So…

Let’s look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi Joe. It’s Sarah.  I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

Joe will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?”
“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now…

Before you call you need to do the
“Set Up”…which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any little thing…but needs to
be believable.

But more importantly…

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

Click here for the Magic of Making Up

If you apply this technique with

no underlying strategy and they

call you back you can do more

HARM than good if you do not

handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is…

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==>
Click here for the Magic of Making Up

Rooting For You,

T Dub, Author of the Magic of Making Up